Sorry, Lily Collins, but when people outsource childbirth, their motives really count | Martha Gill

An Last week online row indicates something we all know, but many people like to ignore. There is nothing right about surrogacy. The uprising began with a Instagram Post by Lily Collins: In a small cart, his new daughter, a photo of Too, under which Emily in Paris The actor expressed endless thanks for our incredible surrogate. The reaction was divided with the forecast lines – those who are in favor of surrogacy, and against them.

The surprising thing was that it was divided with another Fisher: Collins’ possible goals. If you have a problem with infertility, some people were fine to use a surrogate. But keeping your data, helping your career, or because pregnancy is receiving taxes and you are rich enough to outsource it.

People were also divided into surrogate motivations. If she is driven by a desire to help Collins and her husband. But if the real reason was the need for money.

Collins’ husband, Charlie McDele, Rut back on “non -decent messages”Writing: “It is not okay to know why someone may need a surrogate to have a baby. It is okay to not know the motivations of a surrogate, regardless of your view.

But it would be wrong to think that the motivations here are irrelevant. This row touches the central problem with surgery. As auxiliary dies, goals matter. If surrogates are being forced by financial need or other people, this is a problem. If the rich are admitting others just because they can do it simply because they can, then this is another.

The problem is – like auxiliary dying – there are some ways to guarantee that someone is doing something for the right reasons. You cannot find people’s souls, they cannot legislate accordingly and accordingly.

There is a defensive version of surrogacy, which involves commissioning parents who are really needy and is a “pregnancy carrier” that did not put pressure on its conditions. But there are many, many unforgivable versions, and there is no definite way to save them all. If some of the reasons for surrogacy are morally unacceptable, then it is also a process.

Lawyers focus only on the infertile couples for a child. But it is not far from the fact that the birth of the baby is the protection of the rich. This is rapidly common in Hollywood, for example: Sarah Jessica ParkerFor, for, for,. Nicole KidmanParis Hilton, Graemes, Khloe and Kim Kardashian, Priyanka Chopra, Rebel Wilson, Lucy Liu and Naomi Campbell are all reported. Used a surrogate To create a baby.

Liu has said that his decision did not go through infertility: “It seemed like it seemed like the right option for me because I was working and I didn’t know when I was able to stop.”

It may look reasonable. If infertility is a good reason to use surrogate, then why not save your career? But it is like that a surrogate’s “need” turns into a “right”. If your career goals deserve surrogate, then what do you think about failing to find a good relationship relationship? The growing number of Single Men are hiring surrogates A Japanese trader has gathered on this basis 16 surrogate baby “Because he wanted a big family”. The rational step with the rational step, you enter a distinctive world.

When it comes to surrogate, the motivations are also important. For the vast majority, the driving force is undoubtedly needed: Most of the surrogates are strict young women in poverty -stricken countries who are paid to rent their uterus. Some countries, the UK, have tried to change equality by allowing only “pious” surrogacy, where costs can be paid and nothing more. But moral losses remain. Possible wrong reasons are high.

What would happen if a surrogate is driven by the belief that he is setting up an important relationship with a couple, only after his service is completed? Every reason for clinics and parents is to encourage a special sense, but after handing over the child, it has no responsibility to continue. The “best” cause of surrogacy is a purely fanatic, which does not depend on how the commissioners treat you. But we should question the purpose in a world where the sacrifice of women has traditionally been glorified. In almost every country, women are more Kidney donors are likely to beAnd male recipients, though kidney disease is found in women.

At the root of the problem with surrogacy, the fact is that human emotions, attitudes, contacts and relationships are very important, but they cannot be overcome or implemented. We cannot ensure that the relationship between surrogate and parents remains sweet. Nor can we reduce the bond that is made between the birth mother and the baby. This results in damage to surrogates. And likewise children: Without this quick emotional relationship, parents find it easy to give up. There are a lot of children Surveys were thrown with Or in orphans when the Commissioner changes his views.

Surrogacy is a rising industry. Globally, it is estimated at $ 14 billion. Every year, 5,000 to 20,000 children are handed over. British parents are referring to faster commercial surgots Countries are suffering from povertyWhere it is cheap. Number British using both commercial and pious surveys Getting up We must see all this as a problem. Surrogacy can work well, but there are many risks that they don’t do.

Martha Gul is an observer columnist

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