Have you ever been diveled before?
In Portugal, the beaches have transparent water, and many children spend their summer with springs and snorkel while watching small fish on the beach. When I tried it myself, I realized how easy it was to forget about how much I need oxygen unless I got it available.
As an engineering manager (EM), if you close one -on -one meetings, you will feel the same.
As an interview, you probably like to avoid meetings fully and they may be convinced that they are a waste of time. For your team, though, these are private meetings UndesirableJust like oxygen.
And as a manager, making sure your team is breathing and healthy is your top priority, so meetings with each other are part of your routine. That’s why.
As EMS, you play a lot of different roles for your team. You can be his advisor, career advisor, and sometimes his teacher.
However, you have to know what you want to be and who you need information, such as:
- How do your engineers feel
- Who are they working on and their struggle
- Their hopes, preferences and desires
- What kind of people are they
- And the relationships they have with each other
This information will provide you with the context that you need to manage effectively and prevent the problems below the line. However, no one will tell you this at the group meeting.
Will you, as an interview yourself, share why you are disappointed with a job in front of everyone? Or tell your manager why are you angry with another engineer?
Probably not.
Group meetings can also feel incredible, even to non -interviews. However, create a safe, private space for your engineers to express yourself, which provide you all the information you need. They also allow You Focus on one person at a time rather than management of many people.
Also, by making this deep connection, your engineers trust you and see that they are being carried out. About 70 % of US workers He said he would leave because of a bad manager. So, show them that you are not one of what you do!
It is difficult to measure the results of the one -on -one meetings. A meeting does nothing for your team, like buying his girlfriend flowers once does not love it.
Therefore, it is easy to stop doing one -on -one because if you quit a meeting, your team does not fall, and the problems do not appear magically.
But if you Never Meet your ICS, you will see the results in a few months. And will also have:
This has been a meeting every week for years, which produces outstanding results. How to pay attention to the details and show it for your girlfriend permanently loves it.
However, there Are Two things you want to keep an eye after every meeting make sure they are long -term efficient:
- Important titles discussed: If you want to flag a problem or recognize a success and have done this work was a success
- Learn something new: If you didn’t discuss any “important” but learned something new about your engineer, you successfully improved the relationship – even if it seems that nothing has happened, then this is the most important thing you can do in these meetings.
If two people are strange in a meeting, this is the most amazing thing ever. However, it seems just to break this silence that one of you has to start a conversation.
As a m, You This person has to be. It may be painful, but you Can Learn the little things. And, once you learn the patterns around him (like asking open questions), you will see that it is not as difficult as it seems.
In fact, Everything If the context is fine, it can be used as a small thing. Somewhere in the questions will not make much meaning. But if you consider what you know and then ask someone, this is the beginning of a good conversation:
- What did you do after work yesterday? (Useful if they had to leave first or if you saw them a day before preparing for something)
- How is the weather like? (Useful with remote teams in different countries – then you can talk a little about your city and weather)
- What are you currently reading? (You can share a relevant quote that somehow compels you to think about them and then ask them this question)
- What are your plans for the weekend? (You can ask this after you share your plans)
The more you practice, the easier it will be. Also, the deep relationship you make with someone is easy to stay comfortable. They Even start breaking the snow!
When I was in childhood, I used to go to summer camps. The first day was terrible, and I hated being a quiet, strange child in the corner, which had nothing to do with sharing.
As the days pass, I will have opportunities to talk to others because of group activities. After a week, I will become a friend, not external but now thanks to our shared experiences.
With super -interviewed engineers, it would not be enough to break the ice at a meeting. They are very safe and will keep the conversation short and work on the work. It’s great if you need to save time!
But it is good to know that it will take longer to end the strange quality, and the only way is to create joint experiences together on something you enjoy.
Finding a common interest may be compelled first. Unfortunately, you have to ask about random, unusual questions:
- Their hobbies
- Their dreams
- And if they don’t work at all, what will they do
As an interview itself, I know how painful it is. However, after finding this common interest, you are eligible to connect more easily than the person behind the engineer.
For example, let’s both like to play video games. Now you can prepare for a meeting:
- You are thinking about enjoying sports
- New games are coming in front
- Something you know about their favorite game
- And so on
After a while, you will no longer be a stranger – you are two concerts that have a common passion. And since this relationship is strong, it will be easier for them to stay open with them.
This year, one of my goals was to lose weight. I knew I had to do everything, and it was not difficult to follow this list:
- Weigh my food, so I know how much calories I am eating
- Measure how much calories I am burning on a daily basis
- And make sure i’m burning more calories than what I’m eating
It’s easy, okay? And yet, I didn’t do it. Not because I didn’t want to lose weight (I did) But because my focus was somewhere else.
We have limited energy. Because of this, you naturally focus on what more is:
- Immediate
- Agreeable
- Or easy
You may always create something that you need to focus on falling into one of these categories, but keeping it in mind helps to understand the challenges you face. Because, eventually, one -on -one is 80 % which makes your priority and 20 % improve your abilities with them, such as studying small things strategies.
I can help you with 20 % and give you some of what you use. But focusing is a magic solution that you need to improve and handle it.
So, eliminate disturbances, stop time for study and practice, and start now!
Whether you have difficulty in connecting with little talk and construction, a difficult time to balance listening and conversation, or difficulty thinking about questions or topics on occasion, the solution is the same:
Already preparing.
This is the most effective strategy you can use to solve the problem of almost every communication. With AI, it is no longer needed to ask for time.
You can open a chatgott, you can write everything about the person you meet, and ask for some ideas for small things. Or you can use it to organize a meeting in a very logical way, so it is easy to guide the conversation.
Unless you are able to improve, always prepare already.
If you have already done
If this habit is already part of your life, you can also try the following strategies. This will help you promote your communication skills over time and enhance your influence with your team (people respect leaders who care about them).
- Are asking different questions: You are very good to hear, so ask open questions to encourage others to talk and to share (yes or no questions).
- Working to be nervous or not anxious: If you feel pressure to face face -to -face, take deep breaths before meeting. Being calm and appearing creates a safe environment to do so.
- Sharing more about yourself: When asking questions from another person, remember to share your your own your youself about keeping a balanced conversation (instead of investigating).
- To follow in writing: Ask a summary of the meeting and ask any questions about your questions. In this way, you also clarify everything and avoid misunderstandings.
- Don’t try to be someone else: Although you have to talk more than an EM status, you don’t have to be someone you are not. Allow comfortable silence before responding, and do not feel pressure to show emotions as if someone else may be.
- Regularly make One On -One: By making a part of your routine, small things make it easier. You can always refer to something you have talked about earlier, and regularly prevents the growing distance between you.
- Reviewing your meetings: Study what is working and what can improve and apply it next time.
- Scheduled Recharge Time: Before and after the meetings, take a break if possible. Recharge not only for preparation but also in isolation and peace.
One -on -one meetings with your team meet three very important goals:
- Give contexts and information as you need about your engineers who do well as their manager
- Provide your engineers a safe place to feel relieved to talk to you
- And help you build a deep relationship with them who not only make them feel more safe at work but also happy
However, knowing whether these meetings are fruitful, it can be a challenge because the purpose is not always solid, and their effects are usually not immediately. But as long as you are discussing important topics or learning something new about your engineer, you are doing something valuable.
Some of the skills you have to master will have to handle one -on -one are:
- Are asking small things and open questions
- Finding common interests with your more interviewed engineers
- Review your meetings to find ways to improve
- Sharing more about yourself to connect with others
- Looking calm to create a safe environment
- And to follow in writing to clarify any doubts
Therefore, focus on preparing your meetings in advance so that they can be handled and try to keep them regularly. Your team will eventually be grateful for all of your tasks, and your results will reflect it.
